How Do I Attract A Girl

We’ve all been there. When you see that girl you get a little nervous. Your palms start to sweat, and you stammer your words. She’s the last thing you think about when you go to sleep, and the first thing on your mind when you wake up.

You’re thinking of her now aren’t you?

Well, SNAP OUT OF IT.

As long as you obsess about that one special girl, you are giving that girl full control of your emotions. You are subjecting yourself to the whims of a young woman, which is a terrible idea. If she says you’re sweet, you feel ecstatic. But if she says “Don’t talk to me right now,” you’re shattered. Anything she does can send you into a perpetual misery of unfulfilled desire.

Instead, stand up for a moment. Stand up, spread your feet about shoulder width, pull your shoulders back and push out your chest. Say to yourself: “I am [your name] and I am in control of my own emotions.” The person truly responsible for your state of mind is you, and if thinking about a girl can make you miserable, you can (almost) just as easily think about something else, or clear your mind.

Instead of thinking there is one girl and it’s up to her if she chooses you, look at the reality. There are hundreds, or thousands, of girls and it’s up to you which one (or ones) you choose.

I know you’re thinking “But she’s my one special girl!” and playing out some Hollywood-type scene where you rescue her from her boyfriend or make that final nice or valiant act that makes her realise that you’re really the one for her. I’ve got news for you buddy – it doesn’t work like that. Real life is not a Hollywood movie. You’re not Michael Sera, and you can’t get the girl by just asking nicely enough. You can’t get the girl by being her friend and consoling her about all the jerks she dates.

You can get the girl by learning to be attractive to all women, and that will probably involve a lot of practice. Talk to a lot of women. Instead of obsessing about a girl, focus on your work and what you want to achieve. Women will be able to see that you’re a leader, that you know what you want. And they will want a piece of it.

Have a look at this guy. You can see he probably isn’t experienced with women, because he’s worried that he might offend the girl by touching her. Touching isn’t offensive. Watch some females together and you’ll probably see that they’re touching each other all the time.

Leading a girl physically is one of the most important things while interacting with a woman. Why? If you lead, you’re in control. You choose which direction the interaction takes. If you want sex, you’ll probably get sex. If you want to make this girl your girlfriend, you’ll probably do that. If you let her be in control, most likely nothing will happen. Women in general don’t like to lead – it feels uncomfortable for them. When a strong man takes the lead, it makes a woman feel at her most feminine.

As an example, you’re in a club and say to her “Hey let’s go dance.” You take her hand and bring her where you want to go.

For another example. You’re walking down the street with a lovely lady and you want to do the gentlemanly thing and walk on the curbside. You put your hands on her shoulders and gently guide her to the other side as you move behind her.

When you lead a woman physically, it must be a bit more than a suggestion, but not anywhere near as much as say, an abduction. The way you lead a girl is more like “Let’s go! Vaminos!” Than “Hey! You’re coming with me!” Don’t man-handle her Greco-Roman style.

More common though, is the opposite problem. You won’t be physical enough, you won’t lead strong enough. Be gentle with a woman, but not too gentle. Firm, but fair.

Another example of leading strong is when you get a woman into the bedroom. It’s a rare woman who is going to strip naked for you and say “Take me”. You will have to show her along every step of the way. Take off her shirt, her bra, her skirt. Kiss her in delicate places. She will resist at first, but don’t think that means she doesn’t want to have sex with you – it just means she doesn’t want to be seen as easy.

For one final and key example, lead a woman in conversation. It doesn’t mean you can’t listen to what she’s got to say – you don’t have to change the conversation because she starts talking. If you’re interested, then listen. At the same time, you may decide it’s not the right time to talk about her pet rabbit dying when she was six, you might say “Hey, that’s too bad – but let’s talk about something else. It’s time to have fun!”

These are a few ways you can lead a girl. Remember: you’re the man, you’re in control. You’re not trying to intimidate her or bully her into going along with you – that’s rarely going to work. But you are calm and in control of the situation.